I have had my love-hate relationship with Facebook for a few years now but I have been swinging wayyyy over into the hate camp for the last several months. I don't think I can really pinpoint what I find so aggravating about it though.
I have tried to hide and scroll past and ignore the people and posts I'd rather not see. I've made lists for if I wanted to share something with, say, one group of people but didn't want another group of people to see it (similar to Google+ circles). I made many lists actually and it just got to be too hard to maintain.
And then I started to ask myself, why would I share something with group X but not with group Y? And I started to get to the root of the issue... that I felt that I was oversharing my life. That I felt like it was more impersonal to share my life that way.
(Says the girl with a blog.)
Yeah but, I have to think long and hard and deliberately about what I want to share on my blog. Facebook makes it so easy for you to put your every thought or feeling or emotion up there, even if it's really better left unposted. And I think to some degree, this takes away from human interaction.
Hey, you know, I haven't talked to my friend Bubba in a while. I wonder what he's been up to? Let me go have a gander at his Facebook page. Oh! Look at that! He got a new girlfriend! She's pretty. I hope he's happy.
Wouldn't it have been nicer if Bubba and I had an actual relationship where I didn't need to find out about his new girlfriend on Facebook? Where maybe he and I had seen each other, or talked to each other, and we actually shared what was going on in our lives with each other?
I guess in my old age I am just starting to prefer more personal interactions. Especially with my friends. I decided that if I wanted to know how my friends were doing, I would contact them directly. And likewise, if they want to know how I am doing, I am sure they will contact me directly as well.
Life is actually so nice and easy without Facebook. I still have Instagram and Twitter but to me they are different. For one thing, there is pretty much zero negativity in both places. What a weight that is! On Instagram - who doesn't love looking at pictures? Plus I follow a lot of food accounts. On Twitter - there's just not enough room to be negative! 140 characters is not enough for a Debbie Downer to really get everything off her chest! I find that not being surrounded by so much negativity means that it doesn't weigh on me. I dig my Facebook-free life.
In other news... good news left and right this week, keep it comin' Universe, I ate the proverbial toad at the beginning of this year and am ready to start seeing some good. Signs, signs, everywhere signs...